The Day After Your Adoption After the birth, and after the new adoptive family has taken your baby home – when you’ve settled back into everyday life – you’ll have the feeling–the feeling that you’re missing something more than the life you carried for nine months. A part of your life has changed. The first day after the adoption is … Read More
Remembering the Milestones of Mother and Child
Remembering the Milestones of Mother and Child When you were a child your parents celebrated every milestone growing up. They probably still have film of your first steps, keep pictures of your first birthday party, and remember exactly what happened on your first day of school. These are more than just moments in childhood. They are the ways parents create … Read More
It’s National Adoption Month!
It’s National Adoption Month! November is National Adoption Month, a time to celebrate and recognize all people who have been positively affected by adoptions. Children and their adoptive parent celebrate their unique families; birthmothers celebrate with each other to acknowledge their shared journey, and parents looking to adopt are encouraged to consider all options, including foster care and new birthmother … Read More
Making the Right Decision with the Birth Father
Making the Right Decision with the Birth Father You just found out you’re pregnant. Like, today you found out you’re pregnant. You haven’t told anyone yet. But you’re dreading the reaction you might get from the first person to tell: the father. Hopefully he turns out to be a supportive friend, if not boyfriend or husband, that will help you … Read More
Are You Still a Mom After Your Baby is Placed?
Are You Still a Mom After Your Baby is Placed? Birthmothers often don’t receive credit for their amazing story after the baby is placed in the adoptive home. Some moms feel confused after the delivery, because they don’t know whether to call themselves a mom anymore or not. The biological mother is technically not a “birthmom” until the delivery. Until … Read More
When Is a Birthmother a Birthmother?
When Is a Birthmother a Birthmother? Most women who choose adoption after they find out they’re pregnant wonder, “Am I just a mom, or a birth mom?” It can be weird to use a term for yourself that you’ve never heard, especially when many people don’t agree whether a birthmother is a woman who has had her child, or the … Read More
Making the Courageous Choice
Making the Courageous Choice Imagining an adoption is nearly impossible. When you first find out you’re pregnant, it’s so hard to know what you’ll do in the end. Because the media doesn’t talk about what it’s like to be a birth mom, it’s s difficult to understand that choice, let alone relate to it. Could I be a birthmother? You … Read More
The Story of Birthmothers Who Already Have Children
The Story of Birthmothers Who Already Have Children Guilt is the hardest emotion for most birthmothers to handle. When it’s your first child, the guilt primarily comes from the thought that I’m not ready for parenthood when I should be. But that’s not the case for women whose adoptee child is not their first child. And there are many out … Read More
Choosing Adoption Doesn’t Mean a Woman Doesn’t Love Her Baby
Choosing Adoption Doesn’t Mean a Woman Doesn’t Love Her Baby The love a mother has for her child is indescribable. You hear of stories everyday of brave, loving mothers who sacrifice everything to ensure their children’s happiness and safety. Bonds between a mother and child are sealed at birth, and no one could ever break that binding love, including the … Read More
1 Little, 2 Little, 3 Little……..#7 Adoption
1 Little, 2 Little, 3 Little……..#7 Adoption Alana, a working mother, has a full quiver of 6 children ranging from 14 to three years old. Her brood has lived in hotels, crashed on the floors and beds of generous friends, and slept many places the last two years. You see, Alana has has a string of unhealthy, short relationships, resulting … Read More