Dear Son – Adoption Letter

As I think about you today, you are 28 years old. I imagine you graduated high school at the top of your class, were handsome and well-liked, and participated in extracurricular activities. I wonder were they sports? Or music? Or perhaps speech and debate? After graduation you went off to college to pursue your passion for ——? I wish I knew…. While at college, I imagine you met a smart, pretty girl and have married her by now. I wonder if I have grandchildren.

It was so hard to make the decision to place you for adoption. However, I knew it was the best choice for you to have a chance at a successful future. You see, you were born the month I started college. If I wouldn’t have gone to college and made the decision to keep you, I would’ve struggled to give you what you deserved to have—and the basic needs or food and a suitable home. Instead I made the decision to place you up for adoption.

This decision was heart-wrenching and certainly not easy. Especially the first moment I looked down at your precious face. After I delivered you–alone–because the father was out of the picture, I fell in love with you. You laid in my arms so precious and handsome, so tiny and helpless. You needed someone who could care for you, and I didn’t believe at the young age of 18 without a college education that I was the one who could provide the best life for you.

I often think of you. I’ve prayed for you. Now that you are a grown man I wonder if you have the life I imagined for you when I placed you into the home of your father and mother. Did they love you as much I thought they would? Are they happily married? Do you have siblings?

I wonder about your childhood. What did you like to play? What was your favorite Disney movie? I imagine you sharing with me the story of your favorite, most memorable Christmas. I imagine us talking for hours about college life. What was it like the first day you were on campus alone? Did you make friends quickly? Do you have memories of gruelling nights of studying for that all-important exam?

The questions continue as I yearn to hear about where you are today and if you have a family of your own yet.
Wherever you are I hope your life has been everything I hoped it would be the day I made the decision to place you for adoption. I loved you that day…….and I love you today, son.