Most parents dream of the day they will be able to hold their first grandchild. But for some, the time comes much sooner than they expected. If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, telling your parents is the first priority. But, it’s probably one of the scariest things you’ll have to do.

Telling your parents you’re pregnant will be tough no matter what, but you should do so sooner than later. It’s coming as a complete shock to them, whereas you had some time to prepare and digest the information. Some situations may be more difficult than others especially if:

• Your parents were unaware that you were having sex
• They have negative opinions about intimacy before marriage
• They are not in favor of the relationship you have with the father

If one of these things is true, you need to approach the situation carefully. Plan a night when you know your family has no plans, and you can catch them at a quiet moment. You don’t want to spring the news on them at a time when they won’t be able to talk, such as when they’re about to go to work or have a dinner planned with friends. Choose a night when they will both be available to talk and be prepared for questioning.

Once you’ve chosen a time, you need to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally. The words will not come easy, but you should tell them in a direct manner. If you are very nervous or are afraid you won’t be able to when the time comes, tell someone else first and ask them to join you. This is also a smart idea if you are afraid your parents will react violently or critically. Having a support system in place before you tell them is always helpful to finally get the words out.

Most parents are very understanding and will want to support you once they have time to process the news. Some may disapprove, but they are your parents and will love you no matter what. If you need another support system, however, don’t be afraid to reach out to to other family members, friends, or a counselor at school.

Once you’ve told your parents, be prepared for more conversations in the future. You’ll need them to talk about your emotions during the pregnancy, and they will want to know what’s going on in school and in your personal life after they receive the news.

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